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How do we feel about sexist remarks on the forum ?

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I can vouch for that Stu (the bastard bit I mean) as you have seen on this site!!! As you know, I'm a happy bastard.
I have variously been referred to as a funny bastard, annoying bastard, fat bastard, knowledgeable bastard, stupid bastard but as my parents were married the day I was born never just a bastard.
My mother hated me saying the last as they were married 9 years before I was born
They were married 18th December 1953
I was born 18th December 1962
I was married 18th December 1987
 

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I have variously been referred to as a funny bastard, annoying bastard, fat bastard, knowledgeable bastard, stupid bastard but as my parents were married the day I was born never just a bastard.
My mother hated me saying the last as they were married 9 years before I was born
They were married 18th December 1953
I was born 18th December 1962
I was married 18th December 1987
lucky bastard just around the corner once you take delivery of 1) The Beast and 2) The Shed
 

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I have variously been referred to as a funny bastard, annoying bastard, fat bastard, knowledgeable bastard, stupid bastard but as my parents were married the day I was born never just a bastard.
My mother hated me saying the last as they were married 9 years before I was born
They were married 18th December 1953
I was born 18th December 1962
I was married 18th December 1987

Now I know, why I had to learn the original rhyme at school 50 years ago. I knew I would once need it.

Remember, remember
18th of december,
the bastard arrived in a cot.
We have seen ovation for this incarnation
that never get forgot.
 

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Having read @painter 's thread up until this point its interesting to hear everyones take, there are a few things for me to put into the mix.

There are forum guidelines for decorum, politeness and respect. Perhaps not everyone has taken the time to read them or just needs a refresher.

The moderation here is very light and intentionally so, everyone here states that they are adult when they sign up and that should be enough to ensure a common minimum level of decency and civility throughout the discussions on this platform. The self moderation by the group so far has been pretty good with a few limited exceptions.
One thing that is being made apparent is that the conversation threads are drifting, sometimes drastically away from the original posters intent, question or query, so lets try and keep to within the realms of tenuous links to the OP.

The international aspect of the forums' membership can be challenging as a comment in one country can be pretty offensive to a person in another, this is why I encourage everyone to indicate where they are from in their profile for obvious reasons. Secondly, this aspect of the forum is what it makes it such an interesting place to be and spend time (aside from the spectacular Grenadier content) I'm sure this international flavor will bring a myriad of benefits to everyone and provide cultural enrichment and hopefully friendship.

Just make sure you remember that if an Australian is calling you a bastard, it's actually a compliment.
Ah! The British Commonwealth plus the USA: multiple cultures separated by a common language!!:cool:
 

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> But I do think some remarks or "jokes" invoking women could cause offence to some without the writer realising it.

I think that's part of the the highly praised internationality in this forum and that it is thus unlikely to allow us to find a boundary that is equally appropriate for all cultures.

So why shouldn't someone who doesn't think something is OK simply formulate that directly as a response?

A general ban on any kind of flippancy would otherwise hang like a sword of Damocles over everything that could even remotely affect the sensitivity of another. But that's exactly what you have to accept in an international forum: That there are other standards than one's own, be it downwards or upwards.

That's why I think it's better to show respect in general for a personally given answer of the one who is bothered by a contribution. I find that much better than a fundamental restriction a la taliban.

On such occasions, I usually also ask myself whether in what way someone has a problem with contributions which are questionable from his personal point of view, that he might eventually find primarily with himself.

By the way, I wonder who is actually left as a "suspect" if you subtract here all those who have responded so approvingly.

Please note that this is my general position, I am explicitly not pointing to some particular person.

The question was "How do we feel about sexist remarks on the forum ?"

And that's my answer.
That's pretty close to what a British comedian said about offensive jokes too...
 

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The problem with any kind of written communication is that tone and nuance are lost so sometimes things that would be taken as light hearted and harmless in person come across as very insensitive and inappropriate when written.

A good test is would you be happy for your:
- wife
- partner
- daughter/kids
- co workers
- boss/employer
To read and would you be happy to be quoted in a newspaper or in tv as having written it.

If no, then don’t do it.
 
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The “is it suitable for my boss to read over my shoulder” litmus test will work for 99% of the time.

The only place that sort of gets a free pass is the joke thread. Enter at your peril.
 

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That's pretty close to what a British comedian said about offensive jokes too...
"offensive" is a subjective, not an objective assessment.
 

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I couldn't care less what people say - nothing offends me and that's the truth and I'll continue reading threads no matter what people are saying. I won't however go out and actively throw any derogatory comments at any person as I don't have the time for that. I believe you should be able to say just about anything.
 
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