Agreed, you've hit part 2 of the equation, and solidly land in the thermal management problem from Newton's second law.
But now you're also touching on the linearity of the brake booster and human perception of force (which I can't quantify precisely without measurements which I don't have but I'll outline it).
Remember that this energy is based off mass multiplied by velocity. A heavier car is really, really disadvantaged trying to dissipate themselves energy.
My car weighs roughly 800lbs more than a stock car or about 14% more weight.
Using Newton's second law of physics I have to apply 15.2% more force to stop at the same distance. That means that the brake system must absorb 15% more energy and dissipate this as heat.
But now we get into a second problem, the math above is straight up linear. Your applying force through a brake booster. These are force multiplier, letting you apply a 10lbs force and multiplying it into a 50lbs force as an example.
However, these are not fully linear, especially not when mass changes require more force than the stock weight design parameters. If you get close to the boost knee of the power assist you are now applying energy (force) into the braking system with less multiplication from the booster. This only happens at the edge of forces applied which now are 15% more just to be equal.
From literature (its amazing, I found a treasure trove of research on this) getting closer to the boost knee is what most drivers actually perceive as the problem with braking heavier cars. As you get into the boost knee your 15% extra power on the disc becomes 2-3X more power from the foot into the brake pedal since you now have to apply direct energy into the brake system. Can't quantify it without measurements so take that for what it is.
Remember these forces only apply when braking hard, lightly braking doesn't have a difference in feel, we are only talking about the outer bands of the forces in play -heavy braking.
Now we get to the biomechanical problem. Applying force through the leg and the knee is also not linear, a human barely notices extra force applied at light changes but at the outer edge of their power applied we think it's much heavier than it actually is.
A 10% increase in foot force at the lower part of our muscle band is barely noticed. the difference between 5lbs of force applied by the foot vs 5.5lbs is barely noticeable. 100 and 110lbs is noticed as 10% (depending on your natural muscle mass and positioning of the body in the vehicle).
But at the outer bands of forces applied, like during hard braking it feels like 20-25% more force because the muscle gets closer to it's limit. Apply a bit of loss in power boost loss and it feels like 2-3X harder.
This is what literature says is what actually happens.
Fascinating stuff, but I think my adventures into brake forces have come to an end. It's interesting but not that interesting. The reports of better brake feel and performance bears out in math.
The 15% increase in mechanical torque stopping power completely negates the 15% increase in weight. If the better thermals remove fade then I have a superior system at the same pedal feel as a stock vehicle.
I'm getting the bigger brake kit. I think it's going to work out. Math, physics and psychophysics (the human perception of force) is on my side